The interpretation dream girl

The interpretation dream girl

Like I posted before I gave her the assignment to do, and she cried her eyes out, didn’t want to do it.
When I arrived last Wednesday she came to me and told she finished it.
I was surprise because she was ok with that.
So, I read it and here what happen:
All the work was about illusion. See when your unconscious tells to your conscience to defend it self of a huge pain about to come. The unconscious is aware that you are going to have a terrible pain.
She turns her work into illusion, and there was just words like:
“They asked me to married them”
They asked me to stop work”
“They asked me to cook”
“They asked to have their children”
“They asked me to travel with them”
I didn’t see what they really asked her, and what price she had to pay.
In other day I heard her saying that she likes to read, and then she fantasies that she is in that book. That showed me I was right.
One of my last posts I am describing a client who lost her son. I am describing the pain she went through his dead.
I told this client that she is avoiding to go through the same pain. She knows if she writes about her mother, a and about these men that the illusion is over, and that means lost and grieve. She knows once she faces the true that will mean loosing her mother like if she was dead.
Here is the thing, I am not an anti parents, I just know that are millions of people suffering because traumatic childhood experiences. Are millions of people walking like ghosts without having a clue why they suffer, why they married and remarried so many times, why they are sex addicts, why their relationships don’t work.
Here the thing, are other million who are at this moment in dead row, because they committed horrible crimes due their lack of emotion.
Did they born like that? I don’t think so. Something happen. Something very traumatic that unconscious they had become with lack of emotion.
Until we don’t stop to give a look of what happen , nothing will going to change, and we will keep killing people that don’t have a clue about their lack of emotion.
As members of society we need to do some evolution.
This client reminds me a movie that I saw a long time ago: “the monster” with Charlize Theron. Is a story of Aileen Wuornos who is a drifter prostitute who kills many of her "johns." Nearing suicidal despair, Aileen wanders into a bar, where she meets fellow misfit Selby and falls in love. To keep their relationship alive, she continues hooking, only to fuel an increasingly escalating deadly rage that leads into a lurid string of killings and the media's designation of her as the 1st female serial killer.
Why this woman had become a serial killer?
I explain, because until that day she had pretended that she had a lack of emotion. Her brain was exercised to not feel, not care. Her brain was exercised to bend over and pretend that she was in another place. We become what we believe we are!
Finally she got what she is been exercising; lack of emotion.
The lack of emotion becomes rage.
This client of mine walks through the unit very calm. She doesn’t get angry. She is starting to show me rage. I can see in her eyes how much she hates me at this time.
I am the one who is trying to take away the only thing she has - fantasy.
I am the one who is making conscientious.
She told me: so you want me to write a porn story.
I said: no, I just want you to see the price that you had to pay, and the price that you are paying because you don’t want to face what happen to you.
When I read her work was there that her mother asked her to have sex with her brother, and do certain things to him. She wrote that her mother would sit in the couch and watch with a weird face. She wrote that she agreed to her mother to do that because she wanted to protect her brother.
She didn’t write anything else about. She didn’t write witch things her mother asked to do to her brother. I also suspect that her mother was teaching her how to have sex through her little brother. Like a teacher giving a class to a student.
See normal children have fantasies, such be the batman, Cinderella, Spiderman, etc. then they grow up normally and they have other goals, such become independent, buy a house, have a family, have a car. The molested children they don’t live that phase. They keep growing up pretending there are Cinderella, and one of these days a charming Principe will rescue them. They keep fantasies that they are the batman and they become the rescuers of unhealthy people, and they will be miserable all their life.
They will grow up with disappointment as their shadow.
This client is still the Cinderella, and each client had become the charming Principe. She believes that one of them will rescue her in a white horse, and she is not capable to see the price that she is paying for that.
She keeps lay down in the abuser bed, and believing their good people because she lives in fantasy.
What do you think is going to happen once she finds out they are not Principe’s, and she is not a Cinderella? She will feel exactly the same that the other client is feeling because her son dead.
This client will have to buried the Cinderella.

Here more understand of this work:

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a comprehensive, active-directive, philosophically and empirically based psychotherapy which focuses on resolving emotional and behavioral problems and disturbances and enabling people to lead happier and more fulfilling lives.
rational emotive therapy
a form of therapy in which a patient is asked to reject irrational attitudes and assumptions in order to deal effectively with stressful situations.

One of the lost children who was killed because no one stop to ask her why she was a prostitute : Aileen Wuornos

Here some videos about her