Cuss or not cuss during counseling
Well, this is what I believe, and I do believe that sometimes cuss is away to get out anger.
So I have this client who is very afraid of staff.
During individual session she doesn’t look at me, because she fears me. She didn’t trust me, and she didn’t want to have anything to do with me.
It’s my job to find a way to connect the client with me. Is my job to make her safe enough in order for her to start to trust me.
Like always I found a way, lol
Her peers have been telling me that she cusses a lot, and I decided to use that weakness has strength.
Before that I had to find a way to make her mad, in order to give her material for her cuss.
She wanted to call her sister to get money for sodas, so I let her call.
Her sister told her she didn’t have money now, so the client decided to call on of her friends, to ask for money.
I told her to hang up the phone that she only needs to call her family to ask for money, and not her friends.
I saw her face getting red, but she didn’t say anything about it.
Was clear that she was mad, but once again she didn’t express it.
At that afternoon I was going to meet with my caseload.
I call my caseload and I decided to go out side and do caseload group.
I looked at her and I asked her:
- are you mad?
-no!
-why not?
-why not???? I don’t know.
- You are not mad because you don’t have money to buy sodas?
- Not too much, I just wanted a soda.
- So, if you could cuss out the system how that would be?
- What do you mean?
- I am inviting you react like you normal react to things, without consequences
- Really? Can I really say?
- Yes, you can
- so here it comes, fuck the system, fuck that shit, I just want a fuck doctor pepper, to drink in this fucking place…..she kept going and going on
The real one came out, and I was able to see hoe much anger this client has, and how she reacts to life, and her opinion about life.
At the end I asked her:
- You done?
- yes
- Nice to meet you
She laugh, and laugh, and she said how relief she was, and now she could process the desire to have sodas, at she could realize isn’t that important.
This is what I do, I allow clients to cuss, and be who they are.
Why?
Because I just can treat what I see.
I cannot treat what I don’t know, or see.
