reservations why that happen?

Reservations: Why do they happen? It seems like I’m back to writing stuff! Today, I was waiting for the train to go home, and I started to think about reservations. What are they? What are they used for? Are they some kind of defense mechanism? I guess they are, too. They are, because they can be used in two ways. Reservations are always what you don’t say. What you don’t share. They are the little secrets you keep in your head. I also call them a backup plan. Reservations are human! Reservations are used to avoid pain and usually work like this: “If this doesn’t work, I will…” or “Maybe if… I’ll have better luck.” Reservations and denial are similar, or maybe even the same—it’s up to you how you see it. People can get caught up in their own reservations if they don’t share them. This can cause confusion. Reservations happen when you don’t fully believe in something. For example, take recovery and relationships. Let’s start with recovery: “If things don’t go the way I want, I might end up going back and using.” “Well, I’m telling the counselors what they want to hear, but then I’ll do it my way.” Why does this happen? People are too scared of change. Until then, their way was all they knew. Can you imagine if you tried to take away everything they have? Can you imagine how they’d feel and how they’d react? When you tell someone to try a new way, you’re taking away the old way, and that means grief—pain. Reservations allow them to take more time to get used to your new suggestions. They’ll try it very slowly, and that has a name: recovery is a slow process. Right? Right. Relationships: What do people fear most? Rejection and abandonment. I don’t believe that when you start a relationship, you give yourself completely! How many times do you say, “Well, let’s see how this will work out”? How many times do you play “sex games” with other people or engage in little acts of seduction? Those are reservations! So, in the end, reservations are just insecurity! They’re just a way to make you believe you’re in control of any situation. Unreal, but a fact. Done :)1,2sHow can Grok help?