boundories

boundories...more, and more I believe that boundories are very importante in the couseling field.
One of the things I learned is that we have to learn boundories, and not take personal what clients do.
why are counselors that argue with clients? what is the point of that? for what?
what that will brings you? counseling is not a war.
Argueing with clients will just feed your ego, and will not build the trust beetween you and the client.
the point of couseling is just care the message and give to the client a new point of view, in order for them to be able to choose what point they want for their lifes.
Now, if you are a female counselor working with male population - you for sure , you dont want to that!
A man is raise to take care of the family, and has the need to be need by a woman, and be value by a woman.
If you as a woman humiliate that man in group then you may hurt that man very much, and you may loose him, and will never recover.
Take the pride of that man and use in a good way.
Show the male population that you believe in them, encourage them, motivate them.
teach them the value of having a relationship with a woman base on trust and not sex, and humiliation.
I keep believing that we need to look for qualities in the clients in order to build that, and use that for recover.