Mistakes between adicts in a relationship
I believe all of us already went through this and did those mistakes. My experience as an addict through the years taugh a lesson that I would like ti share with u guys.
Meetings together ... If u have a mature relationship so I will tell u why not. But if your relationship is new u may don't want to take your boyfriend to a meeting with u. Is private! Its time that you have for yourslef. Its your time, not us time!
Why is so missunderstandings when this happen?
Well, egomaniac stuff gets into between!
One of them wants to show the other how many friends she or he has, how popular she or he is, how good they share, bla, bla,bla, etc
BS ... A bunch!
Then other mistake and here is the ego again is when they insist to show each other how to live the program. So isntead of they have their girlfriend or boyfriend they get sponsors. And here they are wasting their time teach the program to each other.
This is just a replic of what their parents did to them " u have too" u must too", "you should"
They keep that cycle without knowlegde that they are drawing their relationship in " U HAVE TOO"
Control will demage a relationship very fast. You start to feel tired and sad.
Of course we may want to know that is a big chance that addicts are the perfect emotional. Vampires.
Why emotional vampires? Simple, because ego is always there. The things need to run like they want and they rule and run.
Ego is equal to being insecure.
So if you are an addic and you are in a relationship with one, give him or she a break and let the things flow.
Your time isn't their time.
You are one and not the same!
Keep it cool!
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