Depression

Lets talk about depression

Is still so easy for doctors to give anti depressives to people, right?
Lets look at depression and what is depression.
This is how I see it:
Depression for me is a process.
What is beyond depression? What doctors don’t see??
The feelings! No more, no less!
So someone goes to the doctor and says : I feel sad; or, I cant sleep; or I feel anxious, or I feel weak; or I feel empathy.
The doctor goes and gives anti depressives.
Now, lets talk about our wonderful jobs as counselors J
How do we answer to those complains….. Sad, anxious, weak, cant sleep… how?
We answer with the feelings…… hellooooooooooo
Depression is spiritual, when not treat becomes physical, emotional.
Depression is a consequence of several feelings, so, depression becomes secondary “ disease”
So if it is a consequence, what is the primary feeling?
Fear!
Frustration!
Lost of control!
Grieve!
But most FEAR!
Let me explain.
If you are someone who had a life, and had everything, and then you lost everything, what do you think you are going to feel??? What is about to happen????
Frustration, because the lost and then fear of rebuild everything.
Clients and people, normal have as human being “ resistant to change”
When you have to change you are going to find yourself in a space of not known.
You fear what you don’t know, because you cannot control what is going to happen next.
What fear brings? Anxiety!
You spend hours and hours trying to figure out a way to resolve your problems.
So what normal happens is the person thinks too much….once think too much comes out a huge picture of the future.
Let me explain in other way….if I sit here thinking about; I need a house, a boyfriend, a job, a family, money, a car…..that for me will be like this “ fuck this. this is too much!!!!!”
“ oh my God! I have a long way!!!!!!”
SPIRITUAL - the spirit gets tired just to think about all of that work that needs to be done - you get weak!
Physical you feel tired, no satisfaction, and is like “ fuck it”
Also you may have to start to have physical pain, as headaches.
EMOTIONAL - you go to a danger place, and that is feeling sorry about yourself. Once that happens you screw - you are going to become ungrateful!
Once you are ungrateful you don’t see the positive in your life.
So then the fear takes place. You had become a negative person.
Fear will bring severe anxiety. That anxiety will manifest in all what I wrote above.
So what is the solution?????
Easy - DISCIPLINE! And live just for today!
Like a baby needs to learn how to walk and talk, you will need to do one thing at time.
- make a list of fears that you have today
- make a list of things you are grateful for
- make a plan for a week, what you think you will do first
This takes time???
Oh yes, it will….but the key is not looking at that at all!
Keep yourself in the present!
don’t make the mistake to think about the past or the future.
Past will bring you the negative = frustration = depression
The future will bring you the fear = anxiety=depression
Stop talking about what you had, and talk about what you have now
What you had is gone - game over
What you have now is important because it is yours, belongs to you
If you don’t have nothing now, you may want to start to save money to buy a car.
That will bring you self-esteem because you find yourself building something again.
Then, when you have the car, start to go and find the job that you like
That will bring you self-esteem, because you find yourself doing something for you
Building your self-esteem back will reduce the anxiety. Why?
Because you will feel alive again.
You will feel a member productive, and that will give you self confidence.
Ok that is it
I hope I made sense, like always, lol